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First Date Safety: Finally Made It Past The Inbox? Top Ten Rules To Plan The First Date SAFELY & Possible Scenarios…

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So, you’re ready to sweep your perfect match off their feet on your first date? Make sure you grab your wits and common-sense on your way out the door, to make sure your first date goes off as expected AND also safely:

Meet in public
Making a three-course candle-lit gourmet meal from scratch at your home might sound romantic and score you a few brownie points, but it’s better to have an audience the first time you meet and it could sound a bit risky. Arrange your first date in a public place. You can do the candle-lit dinner on a later date.

Keep it short and sweet
Rather opt for doing something that is quick and requires less commitment – for example, a drink or cup of coffee. That way if you find the spark just isn’t there in person, you can bow out gracefully. And, if you hit it off, you can always extend your first date from a ‘quickie’ to a dinner or a movie. No lengthy commitment leaves the back door open for either of yo
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Opening Lines: How To Charm Your Way Into Their Dating Site Inbox Once You Found Someone You Really Like…

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When it’s finally time to go ahead and contact someone for the first time, what is the best approach? Consider the following guidelines while still adding your personal style.

Not too long. Not too short.
Some people opt for a simple ‘Hello, how are you?’ and leave it at that, whilst others choose to narrate their whole life story with a full medical history, which is probably not a good idea!

Our advice is to strike a happy medium. If you’re hoping for a reply, and that’s what it’s all about, we suggest at least 3 or 4 meaningful sentences, with a question or two to show interest.

Make it personal
People want to feel special – that you absolutely had to write to them because of their compelling profile. Include something that shows you’ve read their profile – for example:

  • What do you like about their profile?
  • Why do you think you’ll be a good match? (Our system shows what you have in common
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How To Send Out The Right Signals on Online Dating Sites To Be Noticed By The People You Like!

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Sending Out The Right Signals? So you’ve seen someone you like – what now? Have they seen you? Today we take a look at sending the right signals tot he right people.

In the real world, the first step in meeting someone would be to catch their eye so that they know you’ve noticed them. In the online dating world, you need to make little advances (or send signals as we like to call it). It’s the virtual equivalent of real life eye contact, smiling, winking and breaking the ice with an introduction.

View their profile (aka The Eye Contact bit)
Looking at someone’s profile is the equivalent of noticing them across a crowded room. You will appear in their Profile Views page and in so doing let them know that they’ve caught your eye and that you have had a look…

BINGO! Now they know that you’ve noticed them.

Add them to your favourites (aka The S
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The Four Best Ways To Find The Potential Matches You Should Be Favouriting On Online Dating Sites

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How To Find Favourites: So you have signed up to a dating website, added and perfected your online profile, now is the time to show it off to people you might want to meet. Let’s explore some of the best ways of finding the people you should be favouriting and adding to your list of favourites…

First Impressions:
The fastest way to connect with new people. You get to look at their profiles that meet your location and age range requirements, BUT we only show you the heart of the profile – their profile photos and About Me narrative.
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My Top Matches Results:
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Five Basics Steps To Make a Good First Impression in Online Dating and Get The Attention You Desire!

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So, you’ve taken the leap and created a profile… now what? Let’s look at the five basic steps of making a great first impression and getting the attention you deserve!

It’s great that you’re putting yourself out there, but if you don’t have the best possible profile, it’s a bit like going to a bar in your oldest pyjamas. So put a bit of time and a lot of thought into your profile – we promise it will pay off.

1. Make sure you match well with others
While looking at someone’s profile, have you ever wondered how we’ve calculated the match score? We won’t bore you with the details, but this clever feature will help you find your match faster and it only works if your About Me and My Ideal Match
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How to be more sexy and courageous with women? In a word, confidence…

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The first thing you need to understand, is that courage is sexy. So it’s going to take courage to be more confident, and to be confident at anything requires skill, competence.

How do you get competence?
You practice, and how do you practice? You start. How do you start? You have the courage.

So you don’t go out and talk to the hottest chick in the bar. First of all, you’re probably not going to meet her there anyway, you’re probably going to meet her at a coffee shop, so just disregard the bar thing. But start with something that’s manageable, a little bit out of your comfort zone. If you are super shy right now and you have a difficult time making eye contact, then start practicing making eye contact with people in general. Not hot girls, just normal people.

Start by saying hi and smiling. Whatever it is that is a little bit beyond your comfort zone, start there, get really good at it and then move to the next step.
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Top Five Reasons Why Men Want To Date Younger Women? Hint: Fun & Playful x 5

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From what I’ve heard from men, they date younger women because…
One: Older women often come off as bitter and jaded. Younger women are fun and playful.
Number two: Older women have an agenda, younger women are fu
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How to cancel an upcoming date without creating the wrong impression, and rescheduling the date

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When you want to cancel a date like a true gentleman, or lady, the main thing is don’t make assumptions, make sure it’s legit and be nice about it.

The first thing is, you must have a legitimate reason, such as death, or an accident or dismemberment. If you’re just too busy, or you’ve worked too hard, or you’re kind of tired, that’s not going to cut it. Do you want to meet this person or not?

The next thing is you message the other person and say, can I talk to you, is, when is a good time to chat? Because you want to cancel this date by talking to the person in real life. There’s way too much that can be misconstrued. People get assumptive when you’re texting the message, and it just takes a lot more courage, whether you’re a man or a woman, to actually call a person, in person, to cancel a date, or to reschedule. This reflects on a potential future relationship and how tough situations would be managed.

So when you call the other person, the first thing you
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The Top Two Mistakes Most Guys & Girls Make When Trying to Approach & Seduce Good Looking People

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The top two things that I’ve seen a lot of guys do. Most guys do this. Most guys make this mistake. The reason why I’m doing this now is because I only realised yesterday it’s actually on a sliding scale of the same emotional polarity, but your’e two different ends of the scale.

And I thought that’s really weird…

I’ve interacted with and it’s come down to actually trying to pull, trying to seduce girls, or whatever does this, and you know, I’m lucky because I’ve been able to see it both sides of the fence. I’ve been the guy who chose. I’ve made these mistakes. I’m about to tell you some stuff and I have made these mistakes believe me, but I’ve also been able to sit on the other side of the fence. I’m lucky enough to have a lot of female friends. Some of them are very good looking so I have heard the I’ve been lucky enough to be able to sit with them and watch guys try and approach them and see what guys do.

Mistake number one is putting them on a ped
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The most important thing to know about online dating sites? Is it just another numbers game?

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What we all know about online dating is that it’s like what my friend calls it, ‘dumpster diving for diamonds‘. You’re going to have to go through a lot of people before you find that right gem, to be totally honest.

So, if you only have a connection in chemistry with one person in a hundred, you’re going to have to go on a lot of dates. You’re going to have to filter, and what you must keep in mind is that people who are just coming out of relationships, they go online…

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People who are thinking about coming out of relationships, they go online. People who are serious about getting into a relationship go online. So there’s just a lot of filtering needed.
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Rejection Sucks – Tips for What to Do When You’ve Been Rejected

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So, you finally gathered up your courage, and… got rejected? Right, first thing you need to do is refocus your thinking. You want to retrain your brain.

When I used to sell real estate, I would make a hundred calls a day, most of those were no’s… it was a numbers game.

So I’d either call a hundred, or till I got to a yes. So there was a lot of rejection and I used to think, okay, every no was closer to yes. You got to really think that way too about rejection, I mean you’re not looking forward to it but if you get rejected really early on, especially early on, you want to thank that person for only wasting this little of my time so that I can move on to really finding my right partner.

The other thing too is that as you’re dating, or getting rejected, you’ll be finding out things that you like and don’t like about people, and perhaps if some of these people are honest with you about why they were not interested, if it’s
something that is changeable, you h
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Why do women, and men, go back to abusive partners again and again? Meet Trauma Bonding, aka Stockholm Syndrome

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When we get back with abusive men, and let me talk about trauma bonding for a moment first, trauma bonding simply means that if two people have shared a highly emotional experience together, it gives them a unique bond and perhaps even a false sense of a depth of bond and a false sense of shared history. The more intense the experiences the more deeply it could be said to burn into a person’s unconscious, so if you compare a pleasant evening out between a nice couple, where they go and they have a nice meal, and then they go to the cinema and then they come back, and they have quiet but nice sex for 15-20 minutes and go to sleep in each other’s arms. That’s all very nice and it’s very lovely.
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