Most Of Us Today Are Too Nervous, Anxious, Uptight, And High-Strung
Because of social media, advertising, television, and the internet, we are overstimulated, have more options than our brain can handle, and there’s so much noise happening that it’s easier than ever to always be in a freaked out, anxious, nervous, weird, high-strung, and sketchy state.
It’s easier to feel stress, worry, and tension.
In fact, being in this state of stress, worry, and tension is becoming the new norm – and most of us don’t even realize when we’re being high -strung!
Since being in a state of constant calm and relaxation is becoming more and more rare, learning to become unusually calm, chilled out, and not letting things get under your skin is something you can use to your advantage in your daily life and with women.
Being Cool, Calm, Collected, Relaxed, And Composed Communicates Confidence And Mental Strength
The high-strung, anxious, nervous, and fidgety guy makes everyone feel “off”, uptight, and uneasy.
The calm, collected, and cool guy makes everyone turn inward and ask themselves, “Am I doing too much right now? Am I being cool? Am I relaxed? This guy seems a lot calmer than I feel at the moment.”
He sets the standard for the temperament we should naturally have and he reminds others to calm down, relax, and to be cool – without saying a word.
When you’re unusually calm, cool, and collect, others are more likely to admire you, look up to you, and want to be more like you.
They’re more likely to want to be around you and bask in your calmness.
Your composure and calm demeanor makes others feel, in a way, “safer” and more secure.
Regardless of what’s happening around him, my good friend Phil is uncommonly calm, cool, collect, and composed from the moment he wakes up until he goes to sleep.
NOTHING gets under his skin and bothers him.
NOTHING gets him overly excited and anxious.
As a result, women and others like being around him and everyone wants to be his friend.
Women Love Calm, Cool, Collect, And Relaxed Men
Being in this calm, cool, collect, relaxed, and composed state causes women to want to be around you because your composure and temperament makes them feel “safer”, happier, calmer, and more relaxed because you’re just so “cool” about it all.
High-strung, stressed, worried, nervous, and anxious men freak women out and cause them to run away while very relaxed men make women more comfortable, relaxed, and happier.
When given the choice, women prefer the relaxed, cool, and calm guy over the guy who can’t keep himself together.
Being Calm, Cool, And Collect Helps You Avoid Mistakes
The saying “cooler heads prevail” is an important mindset to adopt because it’s true with every situation you’ll find yourself in.
When you’re stressed, worried, freaking out, and your emotions are taking over the logical part of your brain, it’s easier to make mistakes and make decisions that, in retrospect, aren’t the best for the situation.
Whether you’ve known her for years or you barely met her 5 seconds ago, it’s important to always remain calm, cool, collect, and relaxed so you can think clearly and not overreact to whatever is happening.
Personally, most of the mistakes I’ve made with women and dating were the product of being tense, anxious, and thinking too much and I’ve learned that when I’m in a tense or stressful situation with women, I get the best results when I’m able to remain calm, cool, and relaxed.
So to help you get on the right track to being the chill guy women love being around, here are 31 ways to be the calm, collect, and cool guy regardless of what’s happening.
1. Be Happy and Grateful for What You Have Right Now
When you’re unhappy with your current situation in life, where you’re at, and what you’re getting, it’s easy for negative feelings to cause you anxiety and stress.
Instead of worrying about what you don’t have, where you’re not at in your life, and what you’re not getting at the moment, make the conscious decision to express gratitude and be happy with where you’re currently at.
You may not live in the big house you want, but at least you have a place to live.
You may not drive the big truck or fancy car you’re aiming to get, but at least you have a way to get around.
You may not have that perfect job, but at least you have a job.
You may not have enough money splurge or to go on a vacation, but at least you have enough to pay your bills.
You may not be happy with your current physical appearance, but at least you have your arms, legs, fingers, and toes and you can improve your appearance.
There’s ALWAYS something to be happy about.
You may not have what you want at the moment, but you at least have what you need.
You can work towards whatever it is you want, but don’t beat yourself up and stress about what you don’t have at the moment.
Be happy with where your life is – even if you’re aiming for something bigger and better.
Each step of the way, look around you and say, “I’m content with this because I know it could be worse.”
2. Only Worry About Now
Another part of being happy and grateful for what you have and where you’re at is not tangling up the past, present, and future.
Thinking, stressing, and worrying about what happened yesterday, last week, or last year won’t change it and it’s a waste of your time to do so.
Thinking, stressing, and worrying about tomorrow, next week, or next year doesn’t do you any good until you get there.
Yes, you can plan and prepare for the future, which is smart, but it’s pointless to stress yourself out over it.
You have the most power to control today and the decisions you’re going to consciously make in this moment.
If someone asks me about last week, I tell them it’s already done and over with.
If someone asks me about next week, I tell them I’ll worry about it then.
It’s pointless to worry about yesterday and tomorrow if you don’t have the power to change it.
Let what happened in the past go.
Worry about tomorrow when tomorrow comes.
Of course, plan, prepare, and be smart about your future, but don’t stress yourself out about it.
Doing so frees up space in your mind and allows you to be calm, chill out, and happier.
3. Practice Patience
When you catch yourself getting anxious, stressed, and worried, consciously make the decision to calm down, chill out, and relax your mind.
Don’t react to the first emotions that come up.
Consciously think about what’s happening in your mind and if it would be wise to say or do what you’re about to.
Patient people don’t allow their mind to control them.
They decide that whatever comes up, they’re going to make the best choice – whether it’s to say something or remain silent.
If they choose to say something, they do it in a very calm and intelligent manner.
No matter what, be patient.
Let others finish saying what they’re saying or doing what they’re doing before you respond.
Think, “Is what I’m about to say or do what a very calm, cool, and collect person would say or do?”
Stop, analyze, make a conscious decision, and then proceed.
4. Be In Your “Nothing Box”
I saw this video, and it’s so true, that talked about how men, in their mind, are able to switch from one box to another and women get all the boxes tangled up.
When men are doing something, they’re in that one mental box and they’re good at shutting off all other thoughts.
When women are doing something, they have 20 boxes open at once and they get stressed, anxious, and worried because they’re thinking about 20 things at once.
When you’re at work, you’re in your work box. You’re not concerned about home or anything else. In that moment, you’re only concerned about work and the job you’re doing.
When you’re at home, you’re in your home box. You’re not concerned about work or anything else.
NOTHING else is happening in your mind except for the box you’re in.
When I’m at the gym, I’m in my gym box. I don’t care about anything happening in the next hour or outside of the gym. I’m in my gym box.
So, when you’re around women and on a date, consciously switch to your box where nothing matters and you really don’t care.
Turn off all other thoughts.
It’s called the “nothing box”.
Nothing is happening in your mind except listening to her talk and having a good time with her.
In that moment, nothing else matters or concerns you.
Forget all the other boxes exist.
Don’t worry about work, home, or anything else.
Literally, empty your mind and switch to your “nothing box”.
After consciously working on this over and over, it becomes second nature and helps you to become more calm, cool, collect, and relaxed.
5. Be Realistic
The most relaxed guys I know are the most realistic about everything happening in their lives and around them.
They’re not stressing out, worrying, and getting anxiety wishing things were different.
They’re realistic and have an “Oh well, it is what it is” attitude towards everything.
If they want more money, they don’t stress out thinking that the monetary system is rigged and they’re being screwed over by “the man” – they know they either have to work harder, work more hours, get a higher paying job, get a new career, etc.
Instead of stressing out and worrying, they make the decision to do something about it.
If they want to get better with women, they don’t stress out, worry, and get anxiety thinking that women are the ones with the problem – they realize that maybe they can improve themselves to become more attractive.
The most unrelaxed and anxious people are the ones who are out of touch with reality, they refuse to see what’s really happening, and they refuse to do anything about it on their end.
Once you can be realistic and accept everything happening in your life, everything will fall into place and you can begin living your life from a more relaxed point of view.
6. Expect The Bad And Crazy – Don’t Be Surprised By Anything
In your mind, accept the possibility that ANYTHING can happen at any time.
Don’t be surprised by anything.
When I’m driving, I’m open to the possibility that another driver can come into my lane and hit me, injure me, or kill me.
I’m realistic about it and I’m ok with it.
It’s the real chance I take every single time I get in my car and drive.
When I’m on a date, I’m open to the possibility that she can turn out to be a psychotic and crazy bitch and/or she won’t like me at all.
I’m ok with that.
When I’m eating a restaurant next to a street, I’m open to the possibility that a car can come crashing through the building.
I’m ok with that.
Since I’m open to the possibility that very crazy and stressful things can and do happen, I’m going to be more relaxed when it does happen because, in the back of my mind, I didn’t rule out the chances of it happening.
I was ready for it.
When you live in an unrealistic reality where bad things never happen, you’re more likely to be the person losing their shit and freaking out when something crazy DOES happen.
Expect the bad and crazy and be ready for anything.
Be realistic about the surroundings and situations you find yourself in.
7. Don’t Hold Onto Anything
Let it all go.
Whatever happened in the past, it’s gone.
It doesn’t matter anymore.
Be willing to let go of anything at any time.
I know that sounds rough and cold, but that mindset helps you become calmer and more relaxed.
If she pisses you off and it’s her fault, no big deal.
Be pissed about it for a few minutes but then decide to let it go.
The longer you hold onto it, the more it becomes a poison that eats away at your happiness and peace of mind.
Shit happens and, a lot of the time, you can’t stop it from happening.
Avoid the victim mentality where you’ve been victimized and the other person is the really bad, hateful, and mean criminal.
Stop thinking like that.
The calm, cool, collect, relaxed, and chill guy thinks, “I’m not a victim. Shit happens and I’ll get over it. I’m not the only person in the world that stuff happens to. I’m choosing not to let it get under my skin.”
8. Ignore The Small And Insignificant Things
So many of us waste our valuable time and energy needlessly getting upset and worried about the smallest and most insignificant things.
Calm, cool, collect, composed, and relaxed people don’t get upset over small things.
It’s ok to pay attention to the things that actually matter, that you actually control, and have REAL consequences.
Notice I said “pay attention to” not “worry” and “freak out over”.
If you don’t show up to work on time, you can lose your job.
If you lose your job, you can develop serious money problems.
If you develop serious money problems, you can’t pay your bills.
If you can’t pay your bills, you have no lights, food, and shelter.
If you have no lights, food, and shelter, you and your children suffer.
These are REAL problems and BIG things you should pay attention to because they’re, for the most part, within your control.
If someone doesn’t use a blinker, it’s not worth getting upset about.
If someone has different political or religious views, it’s not a big deal.
If someone parks too close to the line and you don’t have as much room to park, no big deal.
If you ask for her number and she says “no”, it’s not a big deal.
If you have a date and she doesn’t show up, it’s still not a big deal.
These things are not within your control.
Be realistic about what is and isn’t a big deal and don’t lose your cool over the small things.
When you feel the emotions, irritation, and anger coming up over something small, consciously calm yourself down, remind yourself that it would be stupid to get upset over something small, and let it go.
9. Mind Your Business – Don’t Pay Attention To What Others Are Doing
It’s easy to get overwhelmed looking around at others to be nosy and see if you’re on the right track, having the right thoughts, doing the right things, wearing the right clothes, etc.
It’s easy to feel like your life sucks when you get on Facebook 10 times a day and snoop through everyone’s posts.
Mind your business.
Pay attention to you and forget what everyone else is doing.
Preserve your peace of mind.
Right now, as I write this, someone 2 floors up is throwing items from their balcony to the ground and I’m under the assumption it’s for the dumpster and they don’t want to carry the stuff down three flights of stairs.
But what I’m not doing is stopping what I’m doing to look out of my window and be nosy.
How are they affecting me writing this article?
I’m preserving my peace of mind by only worrying about what I’m doing.
Paying attention to what other people around you are doing will only distract you, waste your time, and keep you from being totally relaxed.
When I’m at a bar and everyone runs to see the fight, I stay where I’m at.
I don’t care who’s fighting because it has nothing to do with me.
Develop the same mindset.
If it doesn’t involve you, it’s none of your business.
Avoid gossip and being nosy.
Respect the lives and privacy of others if you expect them to do the same for you.
Quit getting on Facebook and Snapchat just to look at what others are doing.
It’s lame and only robs you of your happiness.
When you worry about you and only you, you’ll notice you’ll have more peace of mind, calm, and relaxation in your life.
10. Accept Everything “The Way It Is”
Instead of trying to change women, simply adapt to the way they behave so you can have more success.
The fisherman doesn’t get mad because the fish won’t bite his lure, he changes the lure until he finds what the fish like.
He accepts that the fish aren’t in the mood for worms and they’d rather have something else.
Wouldn’t it be really stupid if he went home pissed off because the fish didn’t like what he wanted them to like?
You would probably say, “What a moron!”
Now look at yourself – how is it any different when you get upset about what women respond and don’t respond to?
How is it any different when you say and think, “Women SHOULD like a guy like me and they’re stupid because they don’t”?
Develop the mindset of “that’s the just way it is and I’m not going to allow it to irritate me or get under my skin. I’m just going to accept it, adapt to it, and overcome it.”
You can’t change women but you can accept their thinking and behavior, adapt to it by learning more about them, and then overcome your challenges with them by coming up with a different strategy.
Doesn’t that make more sense?
11. Forget Being Perfect
I went to my friend’s house one time and I could hear him in the bathroom cussing and hitting his fist on the counter.
When I went to see what was up, he was mad because he couldn’t get his hair to be perfectly spiked.
He allowed something small to make him upset and for the rest of the night, he wasn’t in a calm, cool, and collect mood.
He was uptight, anxious, and thought women were looking at his hair because it wasn’t “perfect”.
On his part, it was a total waste of time and energy.
Stop worrying about being perfect.
Stop worrying about wearing the perfect clothes.
Stop worrying about using the perfect words.
Stop worrying about people judging you if something isn’t perfect.
Listen, I am not poor but I STILL go to the bar with shirts that have holes in the armpits, my shoes are dirty, and my beard is looking crazy.
Do I care? No way.
I know that women don’t care about how perfect I look but rather about how relaxed and fun I am to be around.
As a result, women are brushing my beard, poking the holes in my shirt with their fingers, and having a good time with it.
If I looked perfect, I wouldn’t be getting that attention now, would I?
When building skyscrapers and airplanes, yes, perfection is imperative because of engineering calculations, stresses, etc.
It’s important that these things don’t fall apart and kill people.
But with something less significant, like how others think you look, it’s not as important and will only put you on edge.
12. Ignore Opinions
The only opinion that truly matters is your own, but too many of us allow the opinions of others to penetrate our mind and rob us of our peace of mind.
The opinions of others are simply that – opinions.
They’re not real and tangible things that can hurt us but we imagine the opinions of others being physically painful and detrimental to our well-being.
To become more calm, cool, collect, composed, and relaxed, it’s crucial to stop giving life to the opinions of others.
Stop making opinions important.
Stop making them real things in your mind.
They’re not real.
Yes, you should be open-minded and allow others to voice their opinion as a courteous sign of respect, but you DO have the choice of dismissing their opinion as soon as you’re done hearing them out.
You don’t have to take their opinion seriously – especially if it’s hurtful nonsense that can’t be backed up by any real and factual evidence.
Through social media, regardless of IQ and experience in the real world, everyone now has a platform to express their opinion and since there are so many opinions floating around, they aren’t as valuable anymore – proof, facts, and data are.
The man who is calm, cool, and collect around women doesn’t let opinions affect him because he knows opinions aren’t real things that can hurt him.
He’s not dumb enough to be hurt by something imaginary.
If a woman thinks I’m an asshole and I’m cold-hearted, it doesn’t affect me negatively because I know it’s just an opinion, it’s not true, and she, more than likely, can’t back it up and prove it.
She’s just saying it because she’s overwhelmed with emotion, she’s throwing a tantrum, and she hasn’t learned how to express her opinion in a mature, healthy, and intelligent manner.
Because I know it’s an opinion and she’s overreacting, I can easily dumb it down to simple words that have no life to them.
13. Forget Acceptance
The calm, cool, and collect man doesn’t care about being accepted.
He accepts himself.
You’re needlessly giving away your peace of mind and ability to stay calm when you actually give a shit about being accepted by others.
Have you ever considered, even for one second, that maybe 80% of people are looking for acceptance themselves and maybe they don’t have it all figured out either?
Have you ever considered that, maybe, 80% of people are in the same boat as you and having the same thoughts?
One you realize that this is a very real and likely scenario, you don’t worry so much about acceptance and you realize that wanting to be accepted is a waste of time because most people don’t have themselves figured out anyways.
You start learning to accept yourself, be happy with who you are, you start caring less what others think.
Remove wanting to be accepted from your mind and it’ll clear up, even more, space for you to be in your “nothing box” and to just relax, chill out, and be calm.
14. Keep Your Emotions In Check
People who are out-of-control of their emotions aren’t described as calm, cool, and collect.
They’re more commonly described as uptight, sketchy, weird, and even psycho and crazy – which is the opposite of what you’re aiming for.
When your emotions start creeping up and you feel the urge to worry and stress out, take the time to consciously calm yourself down and be cool.
The most common trait among ALL successful people is they’re more in control of their emotions than the average person.
They have the ability to keep a cool head in tense and stressful situations.
15. Don’t React To Stress
Stress is usually the number one reason we fail to keep our cool and stay calm.
We experience a little bit of stress, we freak out and overreact to it, and we’ve done it so much that it’s second nature to us.
It shouldn’t be second nature because it’s robbing you of your ability to chill out, relax, and stay calm.
Life is stress.
Everything you are now and everything you have is the result of a stressful problem – and without problems, life would be senseless.
The need to eat is a problem and it’s stressful.
The need to find shelter is a problem and it’s stressful.
EVERYTHING brings with it a relative degree of stress and it’s smart to simply accept it instead of trying to fight it.
Reacting to stress doesn’t change the situation.
Reacting to stress doesn’t make it easier.
The only thing reacting to stress does is stress you out more and make you seem uncool, unbalanced, and sketchy.
When you’re feeling stress, instead of reacting to it and losing your cool, just remember stress is a part of life and reacting to it won’t change it and, therefore, it’s a senseless waste of your time.
16. Stop Being In A Hurry
Lose the need to get things done faster.
It takes away from your calm state of mind and ability to relax.
A sense of urgency is important when it pertains to your goals because life is short and many of us want to accomplish a lot, but it’s not the same as rushing being in a hurry and it doesn’t necessary cause you to become uptight.
Rushing increases the chances you’ll make mistakes, experience more stress, and that others will see you as nervous, anxious, and weird.
It’s proven that, on average, when you’re driving like a maniac and speeding, you usually only save 2 or 3 minutes and it’s wiser to just slow down, be safer, and not increase your chances of getting hurt, dying, and hurting and killing others.
17. Do Everything Slower – Walking, Talking, Breathing, And Moving
I’ve noticed a very real connection between the mind and body and when you slow the body down, you slow the mind down.
I’ve even noticed that getting in the slow lane and driving slower helps me to relax, chill out, and calm down whereas driving in the fast lane gets me more anxious, uptight, and high-strung.
On top of that, when I walk, talk, breathe, and move slower, my mind seems to follow.
I consciously chill my body out and it chills my mind out.
Yoga is an example of this basic concept and that’s why so many people swear by it to keep them calm, cool, collected, and relaxed.
Practice doing everything slower and you’ll notice a greater sense of calm.
From the outside looking in, moving slower also gives the appearance of being more in control of yourself and communicates composure and calmness – something women find very attractive.
18. Go With The Flow – You Control Freak
Stop feeling the need to take the wheel and control the vehicle.
Calm, cool, and collect men are able to lean back, go along for the ride, and not let the fact that someone else is in control bother them.
When we’re uptight, nervous, high-strung, and acting sketchy, we find it harder to just let go and let it happen.
In the movie Fight Club, Brad Pitt, who is always relaxed and keeps his cool, attempts to teach Edward Norton that he has to let go and stop trying to be a control freak.
He does this by letting go of the steering wheel and letting the car they’re in crash.
Edward Norton is freaking out and trying to grab the wheel and Brad Pitt keeps telling him to “stop trying to control everything and just let go!”
Brad Pitt is trying to teach him that sometimes shitty things are going to happen in life and it’s important to just go with it.
He’s trying to help him to quit being so uptight.
In your life, stop being such a control freak.
Go with the flow of things and see where they take you.
Enjoy the process.
19. Choose Your Battles
When you’re calm, cool, and collect, you don’t fight every little thing that flies in your direction.
You, very wisely, analyze and decide what is worth your time to fight for and what isn’t.
Keeping calm and keeping your composure means letting the little things go and saving your energy and peace of mind for when it matters most.
If you’re constantly fighting the small things, you won’t have the energy and patience to invest when it actually matters.
You’ll be tired and all used up.
Save your energy.
Save your peace of mind.
20. Get Your Priorities / Life In Order
Having your priorities and life in order is like doing preventive maintenance on your vehicle – you’re keeping yourself safe and avoiding something catastrophic happening.
When you have your priorities and life in order, you’re doing preventive maintenance on your mind and giving your mind room to calm down and relax.
You’re not stressed about losing your job because you keep showing up late.
You’re not stressed about bills that didn’t get paid.
You’re taking responsibility, thinking ahead about the truly important stuff, and handling them before they become an issue.
It’s also called being an adult.
The men who have their shit together and are disciplined are calmer and don’t stress and worry about their priorities and life.
They’ve invested time and energy into making sure everything happens the way they want it to happen and, therefore, they are more stress-free and worry-free than the average person.
Write down your priorities and get them handled.
Write down where you’re slacking in life and take the time and energy you’re investing in the BS that doesn’t matter, like playing on Facebook and Snapchat and being in other people’s business, and use it on what actually matters.
Invest your time and energy in the right areas and give your mind a break so you can relax and become calmer, cooler, more collect, and more composed.
21. Avoid Stooping Down To Anyone’s Level
When someone’s acting stupid and childish, it’s a complete waste of your time and energy to stoop down to their level and fight with them.
It takes away from your peace of mind and ability to relax.
If the woman you’re with is freaking out and acting totally ridiculous, just give her a blank look until she’s done.
Don’t react and allow it penetrate your mind.
Don’t yell back at her.
Don’t call her names back.
Stay relaxed, cool, collect, and composed.
The more you freak out, the more she’s going to freak out.
If you stay cool, she’ll realize she’s acting stupid and she’ll pull herself together.
By default, always expect others to come up to your level and never react or respond when someone is behaving in a way you deem unacceptable.
22. Avoid Letting Anything Get to You
The reason you don’t stoop down to anyone’s level is because you don’t want to let anything get to you and give others the satisfaction of knowing they can control your feelings and behavior.
You don’t want to give away your power and ability to relax and stay calm.
It’s not fair to you.
Once someone knows they can rob you of your power, they’ll use it to manipulate you and get what they want from you.
Nothing gets to the guy who always calm, cool, collect, and composed.
23. Avoid Procrastination
Waiting until the last minute unnecessarily stresses you out.
To maintain your peace of mind, get it done right now in a calm manner instead of waiting until the last minute and letting it cause you freak out.
Procrastinators are always on edge, rushing, nervous, high-strung, and lack the ability to stay calm.
Those who are always calm know that waiting until the last minute will kill their vibe and so they get it down now before it becomes a bigger problem.
24. Avoid Drama And Negative People/Situations/Books/Movies/Etc.
Chilled out people like hanging out with chilled out people.
They don’t hang around the “vibe killers”.
They don’t like sketchy, nervous, and anxious weirdos.
Your mind soaks up your environment like a sponge and you become more like the people and things you spend time with.
To increase your chances of always being calm, chill, and relaxed, simply avoid the people and things that stress you out and cause you to get anxious.
If you have a bunch of drama queens and negative people as friends on your Facebook, simply unfollow them, quit reading their comments and posts, or simply unfriend them.
If you have a bunch of drama queens and negative friends in person, consciously choose to quit spending so much time with them.
The same goes for ANYTHING that kills your ability to relax and stay calm.
Avoid hostile places and situations.
Avoid reading negative magazines and news sites.
Avoid negative and sketchy programming on TV or simply decide to stop watching TV – since most of it is useless junk anyways.
You have the choice.
25. Peaceful Environment – Kill The Noise
Calm, cool, collect, composed, and chill guys design their lives to be chill – including their territory and environment.
Personally, I like a quiet home.
There isn’t TV and radio always blasting.
There isn’t a bunch of people slamming doors.
My home is exactly the way I want it – quiet, peaceful, and chill.
When I work, like I’m doing now while writing this article, I wear earplugs to drown out the background noise.
I am EASILY distracted by noise and when I have earplugs in, I can become twice as relaxed and focused.
If you live in a crazy and chaotic household, make the decision to either move out or find somewhere peaceful to go so you can maintain your calm and peace of mind.
If it’s your house and people are making it chaotic, stressful, and hectic, tell them to chill the F out or get out.
You have that right.
In my home, I don’t allow screaming, slamming doors, or acting like an asshole – simply because it isn’t cool and it’s not how I roll and it doesn’t matter if it’s a hot woman, a grown man, or a child – the rules apply to everyone.
Whatever “kills your vibe” and disables you from having inner peace, get away from it or get it away from you.
Design your domain, territory, and environment so that you can become a calmer person.
26. Lighten Up – Have A Sense Of Humor
Calm people love laughing and having a good time.
They find humor in any situation.
The overly serious guy who takes himself, his life, and everything around him too seriously is usually walking around with a stick up his ass.
When you can lighten up, chill out, and find humor in things, you’ll naturally become calmer and able to think more clearly.
Relax and don’t be so serious about everything.
27. Recovery – Get Plenty of Sleep
Studies show people who don’t get enough sleep are less likely to be calm and more likely to be under constant stress.
Studies also show that those who DO get enough sleep are more successful, calmer, and more pleasant to be around.
They have more peace and relaxation in their life.
Love him or hate him, Tom Brady, starting quarterback of the New England Patriots says getting enough sleep is a top priority for him.
He’s always calm, cool, collected, composed, and relaxed – even when he’s being accused of cheating, being suspended from games, and is rated the least liked quarterback, overall, in the NFL.
Even when reporters are trying to ask stupid questions and get under his skin, it appears that nothing gets to him.
Something else that’s interesting is that he’s the most popular quarterback among women – and I don’t think it’s just because of his looks.
Always being calm, cool, and collect allows him to focus and play better than, arguably, any quarterback ever before.
Once again, getting enough sleep is of the upmost importance to him.
Adjust your schedule so you can get more sleep and adjust your sleeping environment so you can get better-quality sleep.
28. Eat Food That’s Good For Your Body
I’m a firm believer that the food you put into your body directly affects your mood, performance, and overall, mind.
When I eat junk food, I’m more irritable, frustrated, and on edge.
When I eat food that’s healthy and my body can digest easier, I have more energy, I’m more relaxed, and not as much gets to me.
People who change their diet report feeling better, calmer, and more in control.
If your diet is pure shit, then work on changing it and seeing how much calmer, cooler, and collected you feel.
29. Exercise And Relieve Stress
Probably the biggest contributor to being able to stay calm all day long is I like to go to the gym 6 days a week.
When I haven’t worked out for a few days, I feel the stress and tension building up.
If I have a bad day and I’m frustrated and stressed, I go running or to the gym for an hour and when I’m done, I’m walking slower, talking slower, moving slower, and overall, I’m more relaxed.
I no longer feel “on edge” or stressed.
My body and mind are both in a more relaxed and calmer state.
Anyone who is highly active from day to day, like military members, athletes, and bodybuilders, are usually calmer and more chill than most people because they regularly get rid of all that excess energy and their bodies get used to being in that “spent” and calm state.
It’s possible for it to become second nature for you as well.
30. Stay Loose – Stretch Regularly
Another thing I do is I stretch a lot when I wake up and when I go to bed because I’ve learned that stress doesn’t only live in the mind but our body absorbs it through our muscles.
Ask a massage therapist.
After I stretch every muscle in my body really good, I’m instantly feeling calmer, cooler, more collect, and more relaxed.
Plus, I’m lowering my chances of injury by keeping my muscles loose and limber.
It helps me get my day started faster and helps me fall asleep faster because I’m, naturally, more chilled out.
You can’t lose when you get in the habit of stretching and staying loose.
Since being able to quit my job as an aircraft mechanic and support myself, I’ve learned that naps are powerful stress relievers that we all need more of.
Yes, it’s understandable if your boss doesn’t allow you to nap at work.
But a 30 minute or hour nap when you get home, if possible, will help relieve some of the day’s stress and tension so can feel more relaxed.
Sometimes you have to pump the breaks, stop, and allow the motor to cool down.
Some of the calmest and most successful people admit they take regular naps as part of their routine and it shows how effective naps are by looking at their lives.
Your success with women will naturally improve when you become calmer, cooler, and more relaxed.
While other guys are thinking too much, doing too much, talking too much, moving too much, and stressing out whether she likes them or not, you’re just leaning back, enjoying yourself, and not burdening anyone by being stressed, tense, and anxious.
You definitely stand out when you’re unusually relaxed and nothing gets to you.
It doesn’t matter how much work you need to do on yourself, you’re capable of becoming calmer and more relaxed on the default level.
It will take conscious effort, repetition, and reminding yourself to chill out, but, eventually, it will become second nature and others will strive to have your level of calm, cool, and composure.
Being the calm, cool, and collect guy always has its perks and there’s no downside.
Thanks for reading.
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